By Christy | the Practicing Pro
Remember that bright-eyed young violinist who couldn't wait for practice time (at least most days)?
Now they are teens, and suddenly getting them to pick up their instrument some days feels like moving mountains. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. As both a teacher and mentor to other teachers, parents and teen musicians, I've seen this transformation happen - and I've learned how to help young people stay connected to their music during these teen years.
Understanding the Teen Musician's World
Think of the teenage years as a time when your young musician is juggling multiple spinning plates - and sometimes, music starts to feel like one plate too many. Let's look at what could really be happening:
Physical Changes and Energy Levels
Those growth spurts and hormonal changes aren't just affecting their height - they're impacting energy levels too. Many teens find themselves physically tired, making that hour of practice feel much more demanding than before. Just like a growing tree needs extra nutrients, teens need extra understanding and support during this time of physical change. Give them a break when they need it, don’t over structure them with too many activities and help them organize their time to manage their lower energy level days or weeks and let them know that’s normal and ok.
A teen came for a lesson. I asked their energy level. They said 3/10. Wow! I told her I was sorry she was feeling tired. I said “Hey, let’s make a deal - I am tired today too- let’s be actors and pretend we have more energy then we both actually DO, just for our lesson so we can get what we need to get done for your goals” she laughed and said “Sure”. At the end of the vigorous lesson I asked oh wow! What is your energy level now after all that crazy hard work?” Still 3/10 , she let me know. The same because it made her more tired because we worked so hard but it also invigorated her to get so much done and play music - so more tired but more energy.
That was so interesting!!!
The Social Landscape
Remember when your child proudly showed off their violin skills to anyone who would listen? Now they might worry about standing out when all they want to do is blend in. Add first relationships, new friendships, and social pressures to the mix, and you can see why daily practice might take a backseat to social activities.
I can really see this in the musical theater students - at first they will do and try anything. Then at a certain time they start being small and careful. They are hyper aware of what their peers might think about them. It will eventually usually pass - but it’s a difficult time.
Academic Demands
High school brings a whole new level of academic pressure. When homework piles up and exams loom, music practice often becomes the first sacrifice. Many teens haven't yet developed the time management skills to balance it all.
Some students also start working or get a boyfriend/girlfriend all asking for their time and energy.
The Independence Shift
Here's something fascinating I've observed: Many teens are transitioning from parent-guided practice to independent practice, but they're still developing the self-discipline and organizational skills needed for this change. It's like learning to ride a bike without training wheels - wobbly at first, but with the right support, they'll find their balance.
As teachers and parents - don’t just “rip off the bandaid” make sure the shift is gradual and allowing them to learn and take over the jobs with support and a little at a time.
Solutions That Really Work:
Create Their Space
One of my most successful students, Sarah, was struggling with practice motivation until her parents helped her create a dedicated music corner in her room. They installed good lighting, a music stand, and a comfortable chair. She put on a shelf where she could see photos of her favourite concerts, music experiences, programs and awards. This simple change sent a powerful message: your music matters, and you deserve a special place for it.
Build Community Through Music
This is HUGE! I can't emphasize enough how important peer connections are. When I started a teen ensemble at our school, the transformation was remarkable. Students who were considering quitting are now eagerly attending rehearsals because they're making music with friends, being involved in concerts, events, recordings, workshops, trips etc…. Remember: teens need to belong, and music can provide that sense of community.
Leadership Opportunities
Let me share a story: One of my students, Michael, was losing interest in violin until I offered him a position as a junior teacher assistant. Though it required extra effort for mentoring (and yes, some attendance challenges), seeing younger students look up to him reignited his passion for music. It's about giving them purpose beyond practice.
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